The evil eye

# A Coaching Protocol by Gabriele Lönne Hello Mrs. X, come quickly into the house! The weather is terrible today!" I say to the client. She enters the hallway in front of my practice and takes off her thick coat. She is small and delicate and seems particularly unsure on her feet. I have known her for a while. We have worked together several times before. After we have comfortably settled down and the hot cappuccino is on the table, I ask her how she is doing. She had told me on the phone about an accident with her horse, in which she suffered a painful coccyx fracture. Mrs. X: It's okay, it has to be! My back still hurts, but the doctors said I should move as much as possible and not lie down all the time. Coach nods: I can imagine! Lying down for too long can be very unfavorable for the musculoskeletal system. Mrs. X: Yes, that's why I wanted to start working with my Dr. Hu again. Coach: Who is Dr. Hu? A therapist or a doctor? Mrs. X: smiles: No, that's my beloved stallion, whom I gave myself as a Christmas present seven years ago. Coach: That sounds great! But - didn't you have the accident with a horse? Mrs. X: Yes, it was Dr. Hu! Coach: How did that happen? Mrs. X: When I was riding on a farm road, a large motorcycle suddenly overtook me and backfired at that moment. Dr. Hu got terribly scared. He reared up and then kicked with his front hooves up. That's when I fell off the horse and even got under the hooves. Coach: Oh my goodness! And that's how you broke your coccyx? Mrs. X: Yes, and suffered several bruises and abrasions. Mrs. X smiles strained, sits up in the chair, and strokes her back. Coach: In other words - you want to work on the accident with me today? Mrs. X: No, not really. I don't think I have a problem with that... Coach: ... but? Mrs. X: Since that day, there's been another issue! Coach: In what situation? With whom? And how? Mrs. X: Well, I have two dogs and Dr. Hu. The dogs obey me without question - always have! Dr. Hu too - but not anymore after the accident! And honestly, Mrs. Lönne, I haven't told anyone, I suddenly have a fear of horses! I get overwhelmed just by having to go to the stable! Imagine, I can't take care of my horse anymore because just the sight of those big eyes makes beads of sweat form on my forehead. A few tears escape from the client's eyes. Coach: How have you organized things at the moment? Dr. Hu needs to be taken care of and exercised. Mrs. X wipes the tears from her face with a colorful butterfly handkerchief: Oh, I've been lucky. Shortly after the accident, a student asked if she could help out in the stable, and since I wasn't supposed to go to the stable or ride on doctor's orders back then, I immediately hired her as an assistant. Coach: Is that going well? Is she getting along well with Dr. Hu? Mrs. X: Yes, Mrs. Lönne, but now I want to take care of and ride my beloved stallion myself. And I can't! The client sobs. Coach: Then we will now determine what is going on inside you when you think about the stable, horses, and riding. However, first, if you agree, I would like to clarify and, if necessary, rework the accident. Is that okay with you? The client nods. Coach: First, I would like to use the O-ring test, which you are already familiar with from our sessions, to test and work on incidents, perceptions, and consequences from the accident. Mrs. X: Okay, Mrs. Lönne. We will test what causes you stress: the day of the accident, the date of the day, the time, the noise of the motorcycle, the motorcycle itself, the driver, Dr. Hu's sudden rearing, Mrs. X's fall, the coccyx injury, being admitted to the hospital, the doctors, the treatment... And we find anger and outrage towards the motorcyclist. Surprise and helplessness during Dr. Hu's rearing. Fear, confusion, bewilderment during the fall, horror at the bone cracking. Situations in the hospital, with the doctors, and the treatment... all check out! That means the ring she forms between her index finger and thumb holds tight. Then we test the current situation and find stress when staying in the stable and dealing with horses in general, and then, especially, when in contact with Dr. Hu. We also test if it's okay to start with the issue of Dr. Hu. I suspect that this is where the root of the problem lies. Coach: Mrs. X, Dr. Hu is causing you stress! The ring between your thumb and index finger opens, indicating stress. We test one after the other where the stress is coming from. When we reach the past, the ring opens again. We specify the age in ten-year increments. The test remains strong up to the age of ten. It opens at an age under ten. The client frowns and shows pronounced signs of stress: a strained expression, tense body posture, shaky voice. Coach: Has anything come to mind for you at the moment? Mrs. X: Yes, when I was nine years old, I was with a foster family on a farm because my parents had a serious car accident and couldn't take care of me for several months. Coach: Okay, let's test it out! The test clearly confirms that there must have been an event at the age of nine. And that this event was associated with emotions that were triggered by the current riding accident. Mrs. X appears extremely tense. I continue testing where the event took place: in the family, school, neighborhood, among friends... Everything checks out strongly! We continue testing: in the personal environment, in the broader circle of acquaintances, with strangers... Only the personal environment causes stress. Coach: The personal environment was related to the parents' accident, events at school, with friends... The parents' accident tests weak! Mrs. X furrows her brow, fully concentrated. The testing continues: It was directly related to the accident, the hospital, the consequences... Consequences test weak! Mrs. X looks up: "Could it be that something was related to the foster family?" I nod and continue testing: It is related to the foster family, the farmhouse, something on the farm... Something on the farm tests weak. But what? We test: It's the farmhouse, the residents, the furnishings, the room for the little Anke - that's the client's name. I use the first name now because my intuition tells me that we are getting closer to the goal. All this obviously does not cause her stress. Mrs. X: And now? I take her hand with a soothing gesture: "We have so many possibilities that will lead us to the goal! The stress was triggered by the vehicles, the machinery, the animals..." Animals test weak! The client suddenly widens her